How to Build and Keep a Healthy Relationship
Want to feel loved and connected to your partner? Learn how to build and keep a romantic relationship that’s healthy, happy, and satisfying.
The following tips can help you keep your relationship healthy.
Spend quality time face to face
You fall in love looking at and listening to each other. If you continue to look and listen in the same attentive ways, you can sustain the falling in love experience over the long term. Many couples find that the face-to-face contact of their early dating days is gradually replaced by hurried texts, emails, and instant messages. While digital communication is great for some purposes, it doesn’t positively impact your brain and nervous system in the same way as face-to-face communication.
Stay connected through communication
Good communication is a fundamental part of a healthy relationship. When you experience a positive emotional connection with your partner, you feel safe and happy. When people stop communicating well, they stop relating well, and times of change or stress can really bring out the disconnect. It may sound simplistic, but as long as you are communicating, you can usually work through whatever problems you’re facing.
Keep physical intimacy alive
Touch is a fundamental part of human existence. Studies on infants have shown the importance of regular, affectionate contact for brain development. And the benefits don’t end in childhood. Affectionate contact boosts the body’s levels of oxytocin, a hormone that influences bonding and attachment. Frequent, affectionate touch – holding hands, hugging, kissing – is equally important.
Learn to give and take in your relationship
If you expect to get what you want 100% of the time in a relationship, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Knowing what is truly important to your partner can go a long way towards building goodwill and an atmosphere of compromise.
Be prepared for ups and downs
It’s important to recognize that there are ups and downs in every relationship. Many events, like job loss or severe health problems, can affect both partners and make it difficult to relate to each other. You should acknowledge the fact that different people cope with stress differently, and not allow misunderstandings to become reasons for frustration and anger.